You Know Your Patterns.
You Just Can't Seem to Stop Them.
Somatic coaching for men and women ready to heal anxious attachment and feel secure in relationships.
If you've spent years understanding why you do what you do in relationships — and still find yourself anxious, overgiving, or stuck in the same cycle — you're not dealing with a knowledge problem.
These patterns live in your nervous system. And that's exactly where I work.
I'm Ryan Spence, a trauma-informed somatic coach with 1,000+ hours of experience helping people break emotional patterns in relationships, heal anxious attachment, and build genuine self-trust.
My approach combines somatic emotional release, nervous system regulation, and grounded coaching — so change happens in your body, not just your mind.
This Work is for you if...
You've done therapy or personal growth work and something is still stuck. You're ready to work with your body, not just your mind. You're willing to actually feel your emotions rather than just understand them. You're committed to taking responsibility for your patterns rather than waiting for someone else to change.
This isn't the right fit if you're looking for a quick fix, you're not open to emotional depth, or you're not yet ready to invest seriously in this kind of change.
I Know This From Experience...
For most of my 20s and early 30s, I did everything I thought I was supposed to do to be worthy of love.
I lost 130 pounds. Built a career. Became a high achiever. And I still found myself stuck in the same exhausting cycle — anxious, overgiving, tying my entire sense of worth to whether someone chose me. I chased emotionally unavailable partners, gave 80% in relationships, and called it being a good man.
It wasn't. It was self-abandonment dressed up as love.
The breaking point came in my mid 30s — a panic attack I thought was a heart attack, followed by two hours of painful grief I'd been carrying since childhood. That moment cracked something open that changed everything.
What followed was years of deep work — therapy, retreats, coaching, and somatic emotional processing. Of everything I tried, this body-based work moved the needle faster and more permanently than anything else. More than talk therapy. More than books or podcasts. More than years of trying to think my way out of patterns that lived in my nervous system.
That's exactly why I do this work the way I do.
Today I show up differently — grounded in myself rather than dependent on someone else's approval. And the people I work with experience that shift too. Clients consistently share that they feel genuinely safe, deeply heard, and finally able to access parts of themselves they'd been protecting for years.
I'm a trauma-informed somatic coach with 1,000+ hours of certified coaching experience, trained in somatic emotional release, consent-based intimacy work, and nervous system regulation. I work with men and women who are done understanding their patterns and ready to actually shift them.
Ready to Finally Break the Patterns? Let's Talk...
Schedule a Free Consultation Call below to discuss your goals and make sure we are a good fit.
Most clients work with me over 3 months. This is a significant commitment — financially and emotionally — AND exactly the path you've been looking for through other resources.
Virtual sessions available worldwide. In-person, Somatic Massage Work available in Minneapolis.
Email Me Directly : Ryan@RyanSpenceCoaching.com
We achieved more in one session with you than in dozens of hours of talk therapy.
J & K - Couple working through jealousy in their relationship
This is your gift! You are so respectful of women (which) brings forth so much healing
P - Woman with trauma from narcissistic ex-husband trust issues
This elicits so much freedom & liberation. What you share is so life changing!
C.F. - Woman that'd freeze up when intimacy with men was a possibility. She has since manifested her partner
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